2020.11.25 05:22 Conscious_Ad7743 Gyno happens the what at
Okay women of reddit, I (male-20) am begging for help and guidance regarding my gf’s health down there, some possible solutions, and things we can do in general going forward. For awhile now, penetrative sex has been close to impossible due to dryness, then burning, which then may have caused her to have bv, uti, and urethra irritation. I think I can rule out not being stimulated because we’re pretty open about honest communication, especially if one person isn’t feeling turned on then we obviously cannot force it. Its hard to not have had sex in awhile, but I know that all my opinions and thoughts should be put aside rn, and I should be focused on my gf’s mental and physical health, as its starting to affect her mood and motivation when it comes to most things. For months whenever a new problem arises, I google and scroll reddit trying to educate myself as much as I can, but there are still a bunch of questions that no one seems to be answering. Currently, my gf is on the lowest dosage of hormonal birth control pills, and we are convinced that the hormones from this are causing many of the problems she has down there, and is throwing it out of whack. Because of this, she has been thinking about a copper iud due to it being non-hormonal, and had already ordered it at the gyno, to which I thought we kinda should have taken more time to research. It seems that vaginal atrophy is due to not enough estrogen in that area, but wouldn’t that mean she needs more hormones? Again idk why the gyno seems to evade, or doesnt answer that question. Currently, she is taking antibiotics for bv, and did have a uti infection before this, so obviously for this to happen for weeks is definitely hard on her mentally, along with everything else thats stressing her. I’ve ordered her a new 100 bil cfu probiotic, she is going to get the copper iud pretty soon, and will this help any of her symptoms ? idk. The next obvious thing I thought of was estrogen cream, but again the gyno deems it “unnecessary” I guess because she’s young. I’ve already gotten the “best” lubes and don’t need anymore recommendations. What I need are solutions that will solve the root causes of her issues, and not just the symptoms. Please help women of reddit.
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2020.11.24 00:22 Certain-Issue-9495 What happens at the gyno
went through a failed medical and then a surgical abortion last week and am in the recovery process currently, and cannot find anyone else who can relate to how i've been feeling.
i am currently finding therapy to help me deal with what happened so please do not suggest it as i am already looking into it, i am here only to see if anyone else feels/felt this way and if this is somewhat normal. i am also aware that my hormones are fixing themselves rn and that these feelings might disappear over the next couple of weeks. in addition to that, if you disagree with sterilization then please don't respond.
when i first found out i knew i wanted to go the abortion route immediately, i went the next day to family planning and got them everything they needed as fast as possible. i didn't have to deal with any protesters, and 99% of the people at the clinic were amazing. there is no doubt in my mind that i made the right choice, although it has felt like i've been gaslighting myself since then
the best way i can explain it is that i do not feel like i am someone who should be able to be with child. growing up i remember saying all the time that i do not want children, in my teen years i knew i would never myself give birth and that i wanted to get my tubes tied once i was old enough. i wanted to get them tied before i ever had to go through an abortion. i turn 21 in a few months and that is when i was planning on looking into childfree gynos who would do the surgery without the sexist restrictions that i will never meet. i am aware that it will be difficult but i am hopeful that people in my area trust women to make their own choices with their bodys.
with this being said, i feel bad. i have been reconsidering my whole life plan. i have never wanted to get married or cohabit with someone but now a small part of me is saying 'its meant to be' and 'all women have maternal instincts' i have found myself saying a lot of pro-life bullshit to myself that i know i do not believe. i know that i made the right choice for myself. i know i dont want children. i've known that my whole life. so why do i feel like a bad person? why does it feel like i want to get top surgery and go by they/them pronouns, even though i know that wouldn't prevent a future pregnancy? why does it feel like im in the wrong body now? i was okay with having periods, presenting as a cisgender women, etc but now it feels like that is someone else.
im sorry for this post being all over the place but i cannot find anyone else that has had a similar experience and i honestly just want any opened minded insight as to why i feel so disconnected with my body since all of this started.
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2020.11.22 02:33 the-ghost-upstairs At gyno happens the what
I'm getting the Mirena IUD inserted on Monday and I'm super anxious about it. My family is extremely religious and don't know that I'm sexually active. I've never been on any form of birth control (because god thinks its of the devil eye roll). I don't really know what to expect. My periods are super irregular so they are having to insert it when I'm not on my period (I never know when it happens and I need it before December). I have an okay general pain tolerance. My other big fear is how much the copay and Mirena cost. I have BCBS insurance and am getting it at my gyno.
Update: thank y'all so much!! I called insurance and that was all taken care of (yayay!). Just got finished and it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be (i took ibuprofen and my anxiety meds before). I only winced a few times. I'm a little crampy but otherwise all is well :)))
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2020.11.19 13:17 NoOz1985 What happens at the gyno
I don't know if anyone is up for my long rant story. That's OK. It's nice to get it off my chest anyway. I feel like my country is behind with treatment. (the Netherlands) There aren't many specialists. And the ones we do have all know each other and have the same approach. They come across convincing. But compared to America, I feel like we're behind here. They're trying though. They really are. Asked me to join a scientific research that will be published world wide. I don't see the benefits from this research. As it's about quality of life for women with endometriomas. Well... We don't have quality of life if you'd ask me.
I am completely drained. Im overwhelmed. I feel sad and misunderstood. I feel like doctors don't really understand the depth of my pain and sorrow. I'm writing this with 2 heating pads on my stomach. (well, on my hips, cause I can't take any pressure on my stomach) The pain from these endometriomas inside my ovaries is so bad. Sharp stabbing pulling pains. While docs are taking it slow seeing what the best approach is while weeks go by... My first thought is... Remove those f*ckers!! But I want to keep my fertility. And I'm already 35 and not in the best of shape. So surgery is risky. My ovaries are kissing. Sounds like they're all happy lovey dovey right?! But I'm not!! And I'm sure they can't be as well, since theyre giving me excruciating pain signals.
My period came 2 weeks too soon. This is the first time ever that my period came earlier. Even though I was diagnosed with severe endo 1.5 weeks ago by MRI. (endometriomas) I've never had irregular periods before. I'm bleeding like crazy here. A maxi night pad will be full after 2 hours. That's kinda new. When I stand up I see little stars. 🤩 So I started taking iron supplements. Freaking blood loss. I've always had heavy periods, but this is new. My bed is soaked with blood every morning. I bought expensive bed sheets cause I wanted something nice for myself. Ruined completely. I sleep with a bunch of towels under me. It's fresh blood. So it can't be the endometrioma flowing blood.
My legs hurt, my back is sore and my hips are painful. This cyst is messing with me, poking my hip. I can't sit, I can't stand for too long. I told gyno this. She doesn't see reason to speed things up. Even though the big cyst might be leaking. (I'm bloated like crazy) I don't want to go to hospital. We're in lockdown, they're having a hard time there, those nurses and doctors. I've already been to the ER a few times before. They offer oxycodone and check if the cyst is still there. It was every time. I was scared it burst. I don't want oxycodone. I have multiple illnesses and oxycodone will f*ck things up completely. I have epilepsy, asthma, sciatica and degeneration in my spine, bursitis in my right hip. I also have Tietze Syndrome in my chest which gives me a hard time breathing. At freaking 35 years old. I can't believe it. Where did this all go wrong..
Im in bed. Watching Netflix. But I can't really focus. I'm in too much pain. Hoping the ibuprofen will kick in soon. It's been 3 years of taking daily painkillers now. For the sciatica and muscle cramps in my lower back and buttock. Sometimes I think I also have fibromyalgia. But the rheumatologist doesn't see that. I don't know why.. Since I have all the signs. Life sucks.
I'm done with endo. I only know for 1.5 weeks I have it. But period pain has been my life for 24 years. I dealt with it. It was nothing compared to what I'm feeling now. And believe me... I was in a lot of pain during periods. So much so that I found myself puffing and breathing away the enormous cramps with breathing excersises like I was giving birth. Moaning and groaning, fetal position. Crying my eyes out. While my boss was angry at me for not being there.. Again. Why don't I just take a paracetamol and suck it up, he said multiple times. It felt like I was giving birth every month for 6 days when I was on my period!!
I'm concerned about the big endometrioma. But I've tried everything I can. I went to ER multiple times. Cyst was still there. They did nothing. A test to see if I have bladder infection, to see if there's inflammation in the blood. My pants are 2 sizes larger since they found these endometriomas. I gotta buy new pants without buttons. Cause they give pressure. The gas, the bloating... Its on another level. And ive dealth with IBS my whole adult life.. But this is something else. It's hard to breathe when I'm so bloated. Every time a stabbing pain comes on on the side of the large cyst I just tear up completely. I'm checking my temp every hour. I try to keep hydrated. But is this what you warriors go trough every month?? Or maybe even every day??? You are all so strong.
In 2015 gyno was stupid and sent me away when I told her I must have endo. Eh voila... I do have endo. Current gyno isn't so worried. She's way too optimistic in my view. Endometrioma is leaking: don't worry about it, I can't have sex: don't worry about it. I can't sleep on my sides or belly: don't worry about it. I'm shivering in pain at times: don't worry about it. She says I don't have deep infiltrated endo. Cause the MRI says so. I can't believe this. Since the cysts are on both ovaries. There must be deep endo. I don't have bowel or bladder pains. I'm afraid of cancer: don't worry about it, she says.
Well... My second opinion will be on the 11th of Dec. Its an 2 hour DRIVE to this hospital. I can't bloody sit. This melon is poking my abdomen. But somehow I gotta do it. I gotta go there. I want as many opinions as I can get.
I'm down.. I'm depressed. Is this because my hormones are messed up or because endo is so overwhelmingly painful and not taken seriously? I don't know. I feel like life has no meaning for me anymore. I'm bed bound. 3 years ago I had a fulfilling life with a nice job in childcare and healthcare with the elderly. I went to the gym 4 times a week. I was fit. Now I feel pregnant with this giant belly. I've gained weight on my hips and breasts. I'm out of shape. And even the thought of excersising makes me shiver. I can't. Moving hurts. I want my life back!! 😭 My partner is so understanding. He isn't getting a lot of sex and is okay with it. He takes over the household. (I don't have kids) he cooks he cleans, he makes me Peppermint teas and warms up the heating pads. He even rubs my neck when I'm on the toilet crying in pain.
He can take care of me now, cause he lost his job due to covid. But what happens when he finds a new job? How am I going to take care of myself? I can't even bent over to reach my socks because of the bloody cyst.
How is this going to end up for me? I've met some wonderful human beings on Reddit. This is kinda the only place I can find some relief. My friends don't get it. No one I know has endo. They've heard of it and think it's just some cramps. They don't know shit.
Will I ever hold a child in my arms? By the time we've figured out what will be happening I'm older. Gyno wants me on progesterone now. I hate taking hormones. I will though. But it took me a year to come off the depo shot many years ago. Period came back after a year of quiting. By the time that happens I'm even older!! But my body can't carry a child right now. Any pressure on my sciatic nerve or pelvis is too much. And I have epilepsy. Which isn't a friend of hormones. It'll mess it up completely. I've been seizure free for many years now. I want to keep it that way. Having a baby, if that would still be possible, would risk me having seizures. And I've already almost died a few times, while having long dangerous grandmal seizure.
It's so heartbreaking. 😭 What the hell am I supposed to do?! I asked for mental support 4 weeks ago. I haven't heard anything from my gyno about it. I asked her again last week. I feel I need something stronger for this pain &. I need a therapist. oxycodone can risk my seizure threshold. And tramadol I can't take because of contra indication for epilepsy. What else is there to take? Fentanyl? Can't take that as well if I don't want to risk seizures. Maybe alcohol will help. I have a few bottles of whiskey in my cabinet. Pffffff....
Sorry for the rant. I'm just so depressed and sad. I feel helpless. These aliens inside of me keep hurting me. Laughing at me, feeding on me... And here I am.. Killing time and not able to have a normal life like a 35 year old. In bed... In lockdown and it completely and utterly sucks ass!!!!!! 😭
I hope we all find some sort of long time relief.. ❤️❤️❤️
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2020.11.18 23:09 lavandula_folia Why does my gynecologist feel it's ok to push his fingers inside me without warning?
Seriously, why did this happen today, when I went to get my expired IUD out? I was lying with my feet in the stirrups, expecting a speculum. Instead, without warning, my gynecologist's fingers were inside me, palpating my vaginal walls. I yelped out in surprise. He was saying it felt normal inside. I felt that this situation should be the polar opposite of normal.
I know, because I googled it afterwards, that a pelvic exam is standard. But why did he not give me a warning? How hard is it to say "first I'm going to do a pelvic exam before I take out the IUD?" How much time does it take to say, "I'm going to palpate your vaginal walls" before it happens? "I'm going to touch you now?" Not a lot of time.
The reason they do it is because we're conditioned to believe it's normal in this environment. That someone can do an exam you don't expect because you're nervous and worried the IUD removal will be painful, not thinking of any procedures that might happen before the speculum is inserted. They can fully insert fingers inside your body that come as a surprise to you. Because it's done at a gynecologist's office. Where he's probably done that to 10 other women that day as it's routine to him and not a big deal, unless someone complains. I felt like I was being unreasonable about being upset over it, but after thinking some more, I'm upset that I didn't say anything. I should be told what's happening and have control over someone touching me in such an intimate way, even for a medical procedure. That's not too much to ask.
If this has happened to you, please speak up. Gynos need to be called out on touching women without making it clear that they have consent to touch them in that way. It should not be acceptable practice.
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2020.11.18 22:17 unfollowingyou mysterious undiagnosed condition
this is gonna be a long one, i apologize for that. but please bear with me, i really need it.
i really need some help. i'm not looking for a diagnosis (though suggestions are welcome as i become more and more desperate) because i know reddit isn't the place for that. i more so just need support because i'm getting to the end of my rope and i feel helpless.
i'm 19, have been sexually active for 2 years now, however i had an 8 month dry spell that ended in june (1 month before this all started) for the past 4 months (since the end of july) i've been experiencing a whole mix of symptoms, which include vaginal itchiness, a stinging and burning sensation in both my vagina and urethra (maybe not the right word but i'm referring to my "pee hole"), and painful urination. sounds like a uti right? you'd be half correct.
here's where it goes sideways. all these symptoms are extremely random. i can't seem to find any pattern or cause for the symptoms. for the most part, i experience some form of pain every single day. there have been random weeks where i have felt fine every day, there have been weeks where every single day i'm in excrutiating pain and have to leave school or work early. sometimes it hurts to pee, but most of the time it doesn't.
i've seen 6 different doctors, 3 clinic and 3 emergency room. here's what they've done:
2020.11.18 20:17 peachsconexo Happens gyno what at the
I should be due for my 5th round of 3-month Lupron shots, but apparently there is a nationwide shortage and I'm no longer going to be receiving the injections.
My battle before Lupron was living hell. Having endo, PCOS and PMDD caused pure chaos in my body, and PTSD from seeing unprofessional gyno, after unprofessional gyno. This was a battle that started at the age of 8. Pretty scary stuff.
Life on Lupron was better. It was much better, but came with it's own nightmares. Significant hair loss, horrible cystic acne, bone and joint pain, emotional roller-coaster, hot flashes and the occasional surprise period just to list a few.
Now, I can find stories from people before Lupron and while taking it, but it's seemingly impossible to find anything about what happens when you stop after being on it for a year or more. I'm honestly pretty terrified. I know I could ask my gyno but she will give me the generic paragraph that can be found anywhere online.
I just want to know what to expect.... If I'll be okay.
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2020.11.18 16:32 Tanogram FTM 7.5 Weeks in a foreign country!
Hi there, first time poster here!
Excited to share that I'm moving right along with my pregnancy! I'm a FTM, 29 years old, and an American living in Germany. So far I just want to share how comforting the process has been. In times of the pandemic, it's also taken a lot of the social pressure off being so far away from family. Obviously I am missing that support, but I'm surprised I've felt as confident and reassured just with lots of phone and video calls. I'd be so interested to hear anyone else's story if you've also given birth in Germany!
After we found out a month ago, I was swallowed with panic and what-nexts, as one would expect. First things first, take a second reassurance test. Positive. Next, make a doctor's appointment. I had scheduled one about a month ahead, and then the office called and moved my date up to the same week, which was a great idea. I am so glad that my usual Gyno that I'm comfortable with was able to work with us as an OB so far. He explained things very clearly and in a helpful way. The one thing that stuck out to me in a really comforting way was how he said, "I'm sure you have hundreds of questions and I will answer them all for you, but remember that there is an appropriate time to answer a lot of these questions. It might not be right away, but I will answer them for you as the time comes."
Maybe that seems unhelpful or reductive, but it put my mind at ease knowing that I don't have to hold 40 weeks worth of knowledge in my head all at once. Our first scan was too early to show a heartbeat, but my second was last Friday and we saw and heard a little pulse buzzing away. My husband and I were just blown away. Obviously, there's always the worry this early, but I've been blessed with a pretty easy time so far. No vomiting, just tiredness, some food aversions, and reallllly sore boobies. Next scan is in mid-December, along with some genetics testing and blood work and by the time the new year rolls around, I'll be past the first trimester. I can't believe how quickly it's going. I'm not feeling a super-strong bond with my baby yet, but each day we get closer. I can definitely feel these primal instincts kicking in. We have names that we both love picked out and plans laid but I think it's important to be as easy going as I can and know that no matter what happens, ie if I can't breastfeed or have an epidural, or anything else that may come up, that we will get through it and there are other solutions and it doesn't make me a failure as a mother. It makes me adaptable to change, just like adapting to the changes of being pregnant!
Anyways, just wanted to pop in and introduce myself. I've been lurking and I'm finding this place helpful and reassuring! Thanks for being awesome caregivers and thanks for reading!
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2020.11.16 08:37 liltulipbean The what gyno happens at
So it's really really hard for me to make this post, but I've decided that it's something that I need to do. When I was 2, I was determined to go to school. My older brother went, so naturally, I wanted to as well. My mom had told me that if I wanted to go to school, I had to be potty trained. I didn't really grasp what that meant at just 2, so instead of actually having a normal pattern, I would just hold it for hours and hours on end, refusing to pee until it would just happen or I'd run to the bathroom at the last minute. Clearly, it was too early for me to be potty trained. This caused me to get frequent UTIs, which is something I still fear to this day. This happened until I was about 4. What scared me so much about the UTIs was the pain when trying to urinate. If anything, the UTIs made my holding problem worse, because I feared the burning and pain that would come if I tried to pee. This was all made worse when I had to have a VCUG. My mom told me nothing about it on the way there. I don't remember too much, but I remember the monitoscreen for the imaging and I remember the table. And the pain. I was hysterically crying before they could even insert the catheter and when they did it was the worst thing I'd ever experienced. I'm sure I've felt worse pain since then but this is seared into my mind as the absolute worst pain imaginable. I distinctly remember screaming "no" over and over again, but no one seemed to care that I didn't consent. I had to be held down for the entire procedure and this was treated like a nuisance. They kept saying things like "good job" and similar comments, but they just felt patronizing. I remember crying out for my mother and not understanding why she would let something so painful in an area I already had a lot of fear and pain around happen. It was a literal nightmare and was so traumatizing for me that it's taken me around 20 years to even make a post like this or share my story in any capacity. From that point on, I always get extremely anxious before annual check ups, as my mom would make me hold my urine for a while before going to the doctor in case they wanted to get a urine sample. They almost never did. I also get really really anxious when I know there won't be a bathroom available to me for a stretch of time, if I have to pee and I can't, or if I have to pee when other people can hear me. I tend to use the bathroom more frequently than most people I know due to that fear of a UTI and a procedure like that again, and get teased by friends sometimes for my constant use of the bathroom. They don't know my history, so it doesn't bother me too much. My mom seems to egg it on when she can though, making fun of me for peeing so much. That fucking hurts after her complacency with the absolutely invasive experience I had. It wasn't until I started to become sexually active that the reality of how fucking traumatizing this was for me set in. I had extreme anxiety before my first gyno appointment (I'm okay with it now, still bugs me sometimes) and now I get really anxious if any of my partners are going to be going down there at all, to the point that I've made previous partners wash their hands before they touch me. (Which is a good practice I guess, haha.) Most sexual contact is not stimulating to me and I often skip over the concept of my own pleasure, knowing that I won't be able to get there because of my trauma. I have been able to stimulate myself, but any situation where someone is between my legs doesn't do it for me. This has caused problems in relationships for me. I also have severe anxiety about the concept of ever giving birth and how the tearing down there that most women have will affect this issue for me. I'm in therapy now for other things, and I've thought of bringing this up, but I haven't due to fear of being borderline mocked like my mom has done to me. After seeing posts on here about people who have also gone through this procedure and have suffered trauma from it/the data about it being similar to being raped, I feel more confident about telling my therapist, but I'm still really unsure. This will be something I'll have to deal with for the rest of my life, and it feels really hopeless thinking about that. Edit: clarified a few things in the post
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2020.11.16 03:50 DarcRane What happens at the gyno
This one is gonna be a long one and I appreciate any ideas, support, etc. because I’m at a standstill here. Also, I want to be clear. I am not seeking a diagnosis but instead asking for opinions and support. I’m a 29-year-old woman and I have had a hell of a time trying to figure out my health (much like everyone else has gone through with Lupus) but I still don’t have any answers. I live in Japan but originally from the US. Usually, that doesn’t matter when it comes to a lot of things but I have noticed that testing and numbers are quite different between the two countries and how they react to certain diseases as well, autoimmune being one of them. I have written down my symptoms and my experience trying to figure out what is going on with my body. I don’t know what other info I can provide but please let me know because like I said I feel like I am losing my mind. Some days I feel ok and some days I feel like my body is at war with itself and I am just so tired mentally and physically.
2020.11.16 03:28 CommunicationAny8041 What happens at the gyno
My girlfriend and I had sex for the first time last night and we went at it all day today.. (sorry to be explicit)
Im going to be honest and say it has been a while for the both of us since the last time we had sex was with our ex’s. So, we were, of course very excited to get intimate and we had no brakes.. long story short:
I drop my girl off home, I get home and I go to pee and I see blood in my urine and it was like a little clot looking type of blood and then it was very watery.
Im nervous and a bit scared because I have no idea what it could be. The second time I peed there was still blood in my urine and it burned while I peed.
Here is some information her and I talked about already: we both don’t have any STD’s we were tested when we started dating, she got an IUD inserted in September but idk if that has any relation to this.
We think it could possibly be a UTI but she has no symptoms of a UTI, I’m wondering if I got it and she didn’t? But how?
I did my research and saw it could be kidney related as well but this only happened after we had sex today... Our last option is that it could possibly be due to the rough sex? We did go for a few rounds and very rough so MAYBE that can be it? But then again why would it burn while I pee?
So yea that’s pretty much my question. I would really appreciate and be grateful if anyone has any information on what this could possibly be. I am setting up an appointment with a GYNO but my girl is really worried for me so I decided to ask fellow Redditors for the meantime.
Thank you guys so much for any help!
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